Trust !

"He who does not trust enough, Will not be trusted."
"To dream anything that you want to dream. That's the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do. That is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself to test your limits. That is the courage to succeed."
"Trust in what you love, continue to do it, and it will take you where you need to go."
"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough."
"A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust."
"It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust."

Things I love about my husband!!

His scent - I love the way he smells. Sometimes I'll bury my face in his pillow just to breathe in his scent.

How he says my name - Occasionally though, he'll say my name and I love the way it sounds when it roll off his tongue. He doesn't know, but just hearing him use my name makes me giddy.

He Does not criticize when the house is a mess. When it gets overwhelming, he'll help me organize things. He's never complained about housekeeping.

He has a good sense of humor - My husband is a funny guy. He makes me laugh. I appreciate that.

He is forgiving - I'm really blessed that my husband tries to be forgiving. After we've had an argument, he doesn't hold a grudge. He is usually willing to agree to disagree and move on..

That we can be couch together - I love that we can sit on the couch and watch tv together. It feels perfect to be sitting by his side with my hands draped over him.

Content - He doesn't compare himself or what he has to others . He is very content with his life as it is.

I love that there is so much to love about him - I love that it was easy to find and write about so many things I love about my husband. He is a really great guy and I'm blessed that he choose me as his eternal companion.

Knows me - He knows me and cares for me. He knows the real me and not just the face I put on in public. He takes the bad with the good.

He is very intelligent - He's quite smart. He has an impressive vocabulary and is the resident science expert in out household. He has a large breadth of knowledge of history as well. What is nice is that he doesn't act like a know-it-all or need to impress people with his knowledge.

Faithful - He has been faithful to me.

He planned the best honeymoon ever - He researched and picked a fabulous destination. It will always be one of our best shared and cherished memories :-)

I love that he thinks I'm beautiful no matter if I'm bare faced or make up ! He even thinks I am when I first wake up; that means a lot.

Believes me - I love that he believes me so much, even if I don't believe myself at the time. I'm pretty confident overall, but there are moments when having his extra support really helps me during those rare times of weakness.

I love that he and I have so many inside jokes together! There are things that he does(vice-versa) that are very specific and hilarious to our relationship that only we understand..

Patience!!

"Have courage for the great sorrows of life and patience for the small ones; and when you have laboriously accomplished your daily task, go to sleep in peace. God is awake."
"The greatest prayer is patience."
"Patience,persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success."
"Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience."
"You will conquer by patience."
"Patience is the companion of wisdom."
"Patience and forbearance make a bishop of his reverence."
"Anger can be subdued only by forbearance and cruelty can be overcome only by nonviolence."
"The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it."

Acceptance!!

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery."
"For after all, the best thing one can do when it's raining is to let it rain."
"Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future."
"Give love and unconditional acceptance to those you encounter, and notice what happens."
"To succeed, it is necessary to accept the world as it is - and rise above it."
"Happiness can exist only in acceptance."
"Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune."
"Love is when you shed a tear and still want him,it's when he ignores you and you still love him it's when he loves another girl you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry."
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing, there is a field. I will meet you there."
"When you are outraged by somebody's impudence,ask yourself at once,"Can the world exist without impudent people?" It cannot; so do not ask for impossibilities."
"I wish they would only take me as I am."

How A Husband Should Love His Wife & How A Wife Should Love Her Husband

Let’s think of love not as a word but an action. Instead of saying “I love you.” Show you wife that you love her. Be more loving! How can a man show his woman he loves her? By doing!

Forget about the box of chocolates and flowers. Any man can go buy these things. But any man cannot show love to his wife on a whim. The chocolates get eaten and make your wife fat and cranky; the flowers wither and die in three days. What about showing your love by doing things that you know your wife will enjoy?

~How Should A Husband Love His Wife~

When was the last time you wined and dined your wife? What about a mini-vacation? Are you the romantic type? If not find out how you can amaze your wife by being a romantic guy. What would that involve?

A woman likes a man who can cook. How about cooking her an intimate candlelit dinner for two? Don’t know how to cook? Get a cookbook and do it anyway. Have some fun in the kitchen and enjoy yourself.

Don’t forget, you wife likes to be touched and hugged without the pressure of sex looming in the near future. Sometimes the hugging and coddling is more important to her than the actual sex act. Not that she doesn’t like to orgasm but that she wants to KNOW that you love her more than the sex act itself. Hug her and cuddle her and you’ll most likely get what you want later.

The most important way to show your love is through your acceptance and validation. Are you the kind of guy that discounts his wife’s choices, desires, and needs through invalidation? This kind of behavior will cause all kinds of trouble in the marriage. Let me tell you why.

By invalidating your wife in whatever manner, you have essentially rejected her. She will feel as if her opinions, decisions, and beliefs don’t count and shouldn’t be regarded with importance. She will hold this within her consciousness and it will come back to haunt you later on in the marriage. This won’t be on purpose but mostly because you have hurt her. She loves you and when you invalidate her feelings, thoughts, actions, beliefs, views, and opinions, she gets hurt!

Let me tell you a big secret about woman, which also includes your wife. Your wife may ask you for your opinion on something because it is in her nature to get a second opinion but that does not necessarily mean that she will go with your opinion or your opposing viewpoint.

I’m not talking about the submission thing here either. What I’m talking about is just everyday thoughts and actions of your wife. If for some reason you really feel that it is best that you disagree with her thoughts and feelings, do so AFTER you have said something positive about the way she thinks and feels. Be understanding! If you actually validate her she will see it your way on her own, even if she won’t admit it.

Your wife may also like to vent her feelings more then you, not because she needs for you to find a solution so much as just being a sounding board. Give her validation in what she has to say, and then ask her if she is looking for an opinion and or solution first before giving her one. This doesn’t make much sense to you, but to us women it makes a lot of sense.

~How A Wife Should Love Her Husband~

It is my firm belief that it is easier to make a man happy than for a man to make a woman happy. I believe this because men really don’t ask for much. If they can camp out on the hard ground with the ants and other bugs how hard can they be to please? Yes, I know this sounds superficial but think about this for a moment. Have you noticed how much happier, and less stressed out your man is when he has his two most important needs met, sex and food?

It is also semi-true that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. They love to eat and they love to eat good tasty meals. When their stomachs are full, and they have been taken care of physically, a man doesn’t ask for much else.

Don’t forget, the home is a man’s castle. Knowing this, make every effort to keep his castle tidy and free of stressful situations that could upset his equilibrium. He has worked all day long and wants to come home to a loving and sweet wife, not a grouch and a TV dinner

Be appreciative of every little thing your man does around the house. Make your man feel like a man by being a woman. Give him a hug and a kiss where it counts, talk about your day together. Don’t reject your husband sexually. Make him feel good about himself by telling him so. Respect him for who he is and what he does!

Basically, a woman needs validated and intimacy, and a man needs sex and good food. Find ways in which you can give of your self in the marriage by being more loving in these areas.

And men, after you have shown your wife how much you love her, then you can buy her the chocolates and flowers.

How to love and respect your husband:

1. Set career, academic, and health goals for yourself, and then work hard to achieve them.
2. Develop a network of diverse and supportive friends.
3. Challenge your husband to be a mutual, respectful, and equal partner in every aspect of your relationship.
4. Resist any forms of intimacy you do not find pleasing or comfortable.
5. Believe in your husband’s honesty and integrity by refusing to lie or cover for him no matter how seemingly justifiable the lie or a cover-up might be.
6. Don’t work harder at his family relationships (on his behalf) than he, himself does.
7. Talk to him about what you see, think, and feel regarding matters that are important to you, and offer him the opportunity to do the same with you in return.
8. Resist making him appear to be a better father than he really is. If you help him save face with the children he might never need to step up to the plate and be all the dad he could be.
9. Be interdependent by finding fulfillment both within your marriage and as an individual. Enjoy being both a mother and wife without losing your capacity to enjoy life outside of each of these wonderful roles.
10. Maintain your voice under all circumstances while realizing that not everything you think or see or feel needs to be expressed.

Thought for the week (13th July 2008)

If there is anything that a man can do well, I say let him do it. Give him a chance.
A house divided against itself cannot stand.
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.
Don't worry when you are not recognized, but strive to be worthy of recognition.
Every one desires to live long, but no one would be old.
I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.
I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice.
I will prepare and some day my chance will come.
People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves.
We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it.
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.
The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.
The secret of success is to know something nobody else knows.
No one can earn a million dollars honestly.
Behind every great fortune there is a crime.
Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.

Thoughts!!

Be at peace with yourself first and then you will be able to bring peace to others.
Beauty is quite different from charm, beauty is what you notice in a woman, charm is when a woman notices you.
Be careful of your thoughts, they may become words at any moment.
Before a man can stand he must learn to kneel.
Believe your beliefs and doubt your doubts.
Be like the flower that perfumes the very hand that crushes it.
Be more concerned about your character than about your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think of you.
Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing.
Be tender to the young, compassionate to the aged, tolerant with the weak. For in your life you will be all of these.
Better an end with pain, than pain with no end.
Better to bend than to break.
Better to understand little than to misunderstand a lot.
Blowing out another's candle will not make yours shine brighter.
Choose your love, love your choice.
Don't say" if I could, I would".
Say instead "If I can, I will".
Defeat isn't bitter if you don't swallow it.
Do all you should, not all you could.
Don't attempt to run from the past, it is always behind you.
Don't be afraid of opposition; Remember a kite rises against, not with the wind.
Don't tell God how big your problems are...tell your problems how big your God is.
Eighty percent of life's satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships.
Even a mosquito doesn't get a slap on the back until he starts to work.
Every closed eye is not sleeping; and every open eye is not seeing.
Everyone needs to be loved . . . especially when they do not deserve it.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
Every truth has two sides; it is well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either.
Faith makes all things possible. Love makes all things easy. Hope makes all things work.
Forgiveness is the best remedy for any injury.
Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner!
Four things come not back: the spoken word, the spent arrow, the past, and the neglected opportunity.

Great Liners!!

A beautiful relationship does not depend upon how good we understand someone but on how well we avoid misunderstandings.
Ability can take you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there.
Ability is what you're capable of doing...
Motivation determines what you do...
Attitude determines how well you do it.
A brook would lose its song if God removed the rocks.
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. (William James)
A cigarette is a pinch of tobacco, wrapped in paper, fire at one end, fool at the other.
A computer is almost human - except that it does not blame its mistakes on another computer.
Acquaintance: a person whom we know well enough to borrow from, but not well enough to lend to.
A crisis is when you can't say: "let's forget the whole thing".
Action may not always be happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
A fall will always make a wise man wiser.
A good way to change somebody's attitude is to change your own.
A good marriage is like a casserole: only those involved actually know what goes into it.
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
A hundred men may make an encampment, but it takes a woman to make a home.
All men make mistakes but married men find out about them sooner.
A long dispute means that both parties are wrong.
Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
Always leave loved ones with loving words, it may be the last time you see them.
A man who thinks he is smarter than his wife, has a very smart wife!
Among the things you can give and still keep are your word, a smile, and a grateful heart.
An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have: The older she gets, the more interested he is in her.
An error doesn't become a mistake until you choose to ignore it.
Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.
Anger is costly on the soul, be careful with what you choose to spend it on.
A person who makes no mistakes, generally makes nothing.
Aspire to inspire before you expire.
A successful man makes more money than his woman can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
A true friend walks in when the world walks out.
A word gets its meaning by the person who speaks it.
A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.

30 Best One Liners

1.Some of them are really that provoking, save it for a relaxed afternoon.
2.Two wrongs don't make a right, but three rights make a left.
3.Do you have trouble making up your mind? Well, yes or no?
4.Before borrowing money from a friend, decide which you need more(friendship or money)
5.Death is hereditary.
6.An expert is someone who takes a subject you understand and makes it sound confusing.
7.Many things can be preserved in alcohol. Dignity is not one of them.
8.When you're right, no one remembers. When you're wrong, no one forgets.
9.Cheer up, the worst is yet to come.
10.Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.
11.Experience is what a comb gives you after you lose your hair.
12.Well done is better than well said.
13.Everyone makes mistakes. The trick is to make them when nobody is looking.
14.They say hard work never hurts anybody, but why take the chance.
15.I like work. It fascinates me. I can sit and look at it for hours.
16.Where there's a will, there are five hundred relatives.
17.I have a drinking problem - I can't afford it.
18.Good girls go to heaven. Bad girls go anywhere!
19.Love thy neighbour, but be sure her husband is away.
20.Drink 'til she's cute, but stop before the wedding.
21.I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met.
22.When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
23.Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy.
24.If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.
25.Many people quit looking for work when they find a job.
26.I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder.
27.Join the Army, meet interesting people, kill them.
28.For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain.
29.Skill is successfully walking a tightrope over Niagara Falls.
30.Intelligence is not trying.

Confidence Quotes!!

" Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great"

" Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted"

" It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not"

" You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself"

" The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another, and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it"

Thought for the week (6th July 2008) !!

" Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude "
" While he sits on cushions of advantages, he goes to sleep. It's only when he is pushed, tormented, defeated that he has a chance to learn something new "
" Success is counted sweetest by those who ne'er succeed "
" Opportunities are like morning dew. To catch one, you have wake up early while the world is busy sleeping "
" Have the determination of a mirror. It never loses its ability to reflect, even if it is broken into thousands of pieces "
" Results limit your success, a positive attitude doesn't. It's your positive attitude that pulls you through your negative phase. Fate may seal, positive attitude will teach you to deal with the seal "
"As long as I know where I stand, I therefore know where I should be "
" Never look at the doors closing behind you or you'll miss the ones opening ahead "
" Hard work is doing the "hard part" of the work, which means going the extra mile "
" Success is yours in anything you accomplish and is derived by your actions alone "
" Apologizing does not mean that you are wrong and the other is right. It only means that you value the relationship much more than personal ego "
" Letting go is difficult... acceptance is a step in the right direction but forgiveness is the key to freedom "
" Your determination, focus and your relationship with others determine how far you will go in life "
" To get to the treasure, you have to dive in "
" Luck can visit a fool but it never sits with him "
" If not you, then who else?"
" A man without imagination is like a bird without wings "
" Life gives you only what you accept "